Comments on: Motherhood Regrets and Mistakes http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/ Green and Natural Parenting Thu, 24 May 2012 15:06:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Meredith http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10270 Meredith Mon, 14 Mar 2011 11:25:10 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10270 great site! and post! please help with our Parents Regret Project at www.parentregrets.blogspot.com Thank you so much! great site! and post!
please help with our Parents Regret Project at http://www.parentregrets.blogspot.com

Thank you so much!

]]> By: mark mcafee http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10269 mark mcafee Fri, 18 Dec 2009 16:36:55 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10269 I feel your regrets and your pain.... One of the comments stated...what is the "SAD" diet?? The "standard american diet" is what you see at the store. It is pastuerized, homogenized, standardized, irridiated ( secretly), made of antibiotic CAFO and GMO grain fed cows and pigs and chickens, it has fake sugars and fake fats, filled with preservatives etc....it is why we are sick. For tens of thousands of years we ate whole foods from living healthy soils. These are not the foods you see at 99.9% of the stores in America. That is why there is a revolution to start connecting back to local trusted farmers and drinking grass fed raw milk. These are the foods that heal asthma, IBS and crohns and help kids with Autism. Did you know that drinking raw milk is like taking 100 natural micro vaccinations every day ( orally ..the right route ). yes....it builds your immunity naturally with out the side effects of FDA pharma shots and their mercury and other toxins. Raw milk stimulates the immunity to a biodiversity of bacteria and viruses. If and when you do decide to vaccinate your child...space them out and use natural vaccination. Never vaccinate a child with a weak immune system. Eat whole foods only and thrive. Because the SAD is really Sad and BAD. Mark McAfee Founder CEO Organic Pastures Dairy Co Fresno CA 1-877 RAW MILK I feel your regrets and your pain….

One of the comments stated…what is the “SAD” diet??

The “standard american diet” is what you see at the store. It is pastuerized, homogenized, standardized, irridiated ( secretly), made of antibiotic CAFO and GMO grain fed cows and pigs and chickens, it has fake sugars and fake fats, filled with preservatives etc….it is why we are sick.

For tens of thousands of years we ate whole foods from living healthy soils. These are not the foods you see at 99.9% of the stores in America.

That is why there is a revolution to start connecting back to local trusted farmers and drinking grass fed raw milk. These are the foods that heal asthma, IBS and crohns and help kids with Autism.

Did you know that drinking raw milk is like taking 100 natural micro vaccinations every day ( orally ..the right route ). yes….it builds your immunity naturally with out the side effects of FDA pharma shots and their mercury and other toxins. Raw milk stimulates the immunity to a biodiversity of bacteria and viruses. If and when you do decide to vaccinate your child…space them out and use natural vaccination. Never vaccinate a child with a weak immune system. Eat whole foods only and thrive. Because the SAD is really Sad and BAD.

Mark McAfee
Founder CEO
Organic Pastures Dairy Co
Fresno CA
1-877 RAW MILK

]]> By: Duende http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10268 Duende Sat, 01 Aug 2009 13:00:20 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10268 Reading this article I feel like I've written it. We had quite the same story with my daughter, now 18 months old. We vaccinated her on her second day with BCG, then we had all those problems with allergies, eczema, etc. The docs asked me to stop breastfeeding, and listened to them, which was my biggest mistake (and biggest regret...). Now I do believe breastfeeding and natural parenting are the best and only one option for my kids, so hopefully with my second one I will have the chance to follow it. Today is the first day of the World Breastfeeding Week 1-7 August, so let's join the cause and support it. And let's spread the word about the benefits of breastfeeding, and help those first time mums who need some support and advice... A great article about breastfeeding here: http://www.greenkiddie.co.uk/Breastfeeding.php Reading this article I feel like I’ve written it. We had quite the same story with my daughter, now 18 months old.
We vaccinated her on her second day with BCG, then we had all those problems with allergies, eczema, etc. The docs asked me to stop breastfeeding, and listened to them, which was my biggest mistake (and biggest regret…).
Now I do believe breastfeeding and natural parenting are the best and only one option for my kids, so hopefully with my second one I will have the chance to follow it.
Today is the first day of the World Breastfeeding Week 1-7 August, so let’s join the cause and support it. And let’s spread the word about the benefits of breastfeeding, and help those first time mums who need some support and advice… A great article about breastfeeding here: http://www.greenkiddie.co.uk/Breastfeeding.php

]]> By: Heather http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10267 Heather Thu, 30 Apr 2009 18:20:01 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10267 well Its mostly with my first... I regret the her being vax'd I regret her unnatural birth, and for not rooming in with her at the hospital (I didnt even know you could do that...but I was 17 and did what I was told :( I regret that I had to move in with my foster mom and go to work..while she CIO for hours (Ok I am going to cry). I regret her diet, It was aweful and it was my fault for being a "convients is best" kind of mother. I regret just about everything...exept having her...I wouldnt change that for the world, well Its mostly with my first…

I regret the her being vax’d

I regret her unnatural birth, and for not rooming in with her at the hospital (I didnt even know you could do that…but I was 17 and did what I was told :(

I regret that I had to move in with my foster mom and go to work..while she CIO for hours (Ok I am going to cry).

I regret her diet, It was aweful and it was my fault for being a “convients is best” kind of mother.

I regret just about everything…exept having her…I wouldnt change that for the world,

]]> By: Angie Goodloe http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10266 Angie Goodloe Sun, 01 Mar 2009 22:48:06 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10266 Thank you so much for being so open and honest about this. You will help so many moms in the process. This was my first time to your blog, your post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much for being so open and honest about this.
You will help so many moms in the process.
This was my first time to your blog, your post brought tears to my eyes.

]]> By: shannon http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10265 shannon Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:07:00 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10265 Cassels, No, preserved shots are NOT the same as seperated shots. Usually preserved shots are the entire vaccine (such as MMR), but can also be in single dose preperations as well. You can get them as seperate vaccines and also get them un-preserved--both of which I did. Thimerosal (mercury) is no longer used, but since medical offices use multi-use vials of medicine/vaccines (most cost effictive) they still come preserved. I left the medical field just after the Thimerosal ruling, so I'm not sure what they are using now to preserve. I hope that helps. Good luck! Cassels,
No, preserved shots are NOT the same as seperated shots. Usually preserved shots are the entire vaccine (such as MMR), but can also be in single dose preperations as well. You can get them as seperate vaccines and also get them un-preserved–both of which I did. Thimerosal (mercury) is no longer used, but since medical offices use multi-use vials of medicine/vaccines (most cost effictive) they still come preserved. I left the medical field just after the Thimerosal ruling, so I’m not sure what they are using now to preserve. I hope that helps. Good luck!

]]> By: Jenilee http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10264 Jenilee Wed, 11 Feb 2009 16:38:51 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10264 You are very right Tiffany, part of learning is growing up and regrets usually teaches us awareness into helping us be a higher self of our intuition.. We are born with a gut feeling that seems to be contradicted, controlled or lost along the ways of external factors or mundane ideals, outside of our inner selves. Your oldest child was your blessing and by far your greatest teacher to bringing you to a better you, so thank him and the higher sources of the universe who send him here for you to improve... It was a temporary sacrifice of the body.. and the body doesn't determine our spirit and who we are ultimately.. which is simply and purely eternal Love.. Namaste and congrats in overcoming a lessong in life.. you are on the right path now =) You are very right Tiffany, part of learning is growing up and regrets usually teaches us awareness into helping us be a higher self of our intuition.. We are born with a gut feeling that seems to be contradicted, controlled or lost along the ways of external factors or mundane ideals, outside of our inner selves. Your oldest child was your blessing and by far your greatest teacher to bringing you to a better you, so thank him and the higher sources of the universe who send him here for you to improve… It was a temporary sacrifice of the body.. and the body doesn’t determine our spirit and who we are ultimately.. which is simply and purely eternal Love.. Namaste and congrats in overcoming a lessong in life.. you are on the right path now =)

]]> By: Tiffany http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10263 Tiffany Wed, 11 Feb 2009 13:40:55 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10263 Thanks for all your comments ladies! I hope I didn't leave the impression that I was wallowing in guilt or punishing myself because I am not. I just very matter-o-factly told you all what I regret. Part of learning is owning up to the mistakes you made. I don't live in the past though. Thanks for all your comments ladies! I hope I didn’t leave the impression that I was wallowing in guilt or punishing myself because I am not. I just very matter-o-factly told you all what I regret. Part of learning is owning up to the mistakes you made. I don’t live in the past though.

]]> By: Monica http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10262 Monica Wed, 11 Feb 2009 04:30:05 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10262 I really appreciated all the comments and your post Tiffany. Manda's comment is something I think we should all remember. There are things I wish I would have done differently but I think the most important thing is to be "present" for my daughter so she never has to grow up feeling invisible. I guess my point is that any of my "regrets" are mostly superficial compared to the what I really want to Be as a parent. I think we also have to be good to ourselves so our kids will learn to forgive themselves as well. Life is a process. I really appreciated all the comments and your post Tiffany. Manda’s comment is something I think we should all remember.

There are things I wish I would have done differently but I think the most important thing is to be “present” for my daughter so she never has to grow up feeling invisible. I guess my point is that any of my “regrets” are mostly superficial compared to the what I really want to Be as a parent.

I think we also have to be good to ourselves so our kids will learn to forgive themselves as well. Life is a process.

]]> By: molly http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10261 molly Tue, 10 Feb 2009 22:48:51 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10261 Manda, sooo wise!! Manda, sooo wise!!

]]> By: Teresa Peters http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10260 Teresa Peters Tue, 10 Feb 2009 20:38:45 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10260 Your story and the comments confirm my decision not to vaccinate my 20 month old daughter. Thanks. It's really hard to follow through even as time goes by because we continually get hit by the negativity of western medicine. We can't even find a pediatrician who will take us - just in case we ever needed something. We still don't know what to do in the long term. I'm worried either way to be honest. I really regret letting the doctor talk us in to inducing. I regret not knowing more about breastfeeding and letting the doctor scare me into giving her supplemental milk the first week. I never did recover and even though we tried everything for three months, I couldn't give her nearly enough breast milk. Mostly though, I'm grateful to have a healthy and happy girl. Your story and the comments confirm my decision not to vaccinate my 20 month old daughter. Thanks. It’s really hard to follow through even as time goes by because we continually get hit by the negativity of western medicine. We can’t even find a pediatrician who will take us – just in case we ever needed something. We still don’t know what to do in the long term. I’m worried either way to be honest.
I really regret letting the doctor talk us in to inducing. I regret not knowing more about breastfeeding and letting the doctor scare me into giving her supplemental milk the first week. I never did recover and even though we tried everything for three months, I couldn’t give her nearly enough breast milk.
Mostly though, I’m grateful to have a healthy and happy girl.

]]> By: Rachel http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10259 Rachel Tue, 10 Feb 2009 19:51:29 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10259 I wish we would all relax a bit. We all make mistakes, none of us want to hurt our children on purpose, we learn and we move on. We put so much pressure on ourselves, everything has to be perfect, I think that is way more damaging than any baby lotion for god's sake. I wish we would all relax a bit. We all make mistakes, none of us want to hurt our children on purpose, we learn and we move on. We put so much pressure on ourselves, everything has to be perfect, I think that is way more damaging than any baby lotion for god’s sake.

]]> By: Momma http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10258 Momma Tue, 10 Feb 2009 19:29:41 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10258 I regret not researching childbirth before my son was born. I was very naive to think that everything was going to be just fine and go just the was I wanted it to. I am very thankful that none of the medicines I took while in labor or the c-section affected my son long term. Right now I am struggling with his diet. I know I am doing ok with it, but I also know I could be doing better. Tiffany, I have seen a little of what your kids eat from some of your posts. But what would a typical day be like? I regret not researching childbirth before my son was born. I was very naive to think that everything was going to be just fine and go just the was I wanted it to. I am very thankful that none of the medicines I took while in labor or the c-section affected my son long term. Right now I am struggling with his diet. I know I am doing ok with it, but I also know I could be doing better. Tiffany, I have seen a little of what your kids eat from some of your posts. But what would a typical day be like?

]]> By: Cassels http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10257 Cassels Tue, 10 Feb 2009 15:41:54 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10257 Shannon, are preservative shots the same as getting them separated? My son is 15 months shots are coming up and I've already skipped the MMR shot once and not sure what to do now. He needs his shots up to date for them to accept him in preschool/ daycare. Shannon, are preservative shots the same as getting them separated? My son is 15 months shots are coming up and I’ve already skipped the MMR shot once and not sure what to do now. He needs his shots up to date for them to accept him in preschool/ daycare.

]]> By: Brooke http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10256 Brooke Tue, 10 Feb 2009 08:04:06 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10256 I think we can spend our lives living in regret or we can spend our lives being thankful for what we have. I made lots of mistakes being a first time parent, some people would go as far as to claim I risk my life and that of my child by not going to a doctor for the first 6 months of my pregnancy (long complicated story). We can only make decisions based on what we know at the time and learn from our mistakes. I think we can spend our lives living in regret or we can spend our lives being thankful for what we have. I made lots of mistakes being a first time parent, some people would go as far as to claim I risk my life and that of my child by not going to a doctor for the first 6 months of my pregnancy (long complicated story). We can only make decisions based on what we know at the time and learn from our mistakes.

]]> By: shannon http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10255 shannon Mon, 09 Feb 2009 23:53:50 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10255 I have many regrets........I think that comes with the title of "momma", I did, however, stand my ground when it came to vaccinations. My husband is a physician and passed me every study on the safety of vaccinations, and was adamant that our twins be vaccinated. After working for a doctor who specialized in autistic children (my degree is in biology,and I analyzed all the heavy metal tests that he ordered), I felt I had a few options for negotiation. First and foremost I staggered the vaccionations and pushed them back six months. I didn't feel they needed 4 vaccines all at once at one year! I waited until they were 18 months old, then did them two at a time. Secondly, and most importantly, I called ahead to the Dr's. office two months prior to our appointment and requested that they have preservative free vaccine for the kids. Insurances generally won't pay for preservative free vaccine, but the cost is nominal considering what you won't be paying in heartbreak, emergency room bills, and regret. Keep all the great work you fabulous moms! I have many regrets……..I think that comes with the title of “momma”, I did, however, stand my ground when it came to vaccinations. My husband is a physician and passed me every study on the safety of vaccinations, and was adamant that our twins be vaccinated. After working for a doctor who specialized in autistic children (my degree is in biology,and I analyzed all the heavy metal tests that he ordered), I felt I had a few options for negotiation. First and foremost I staggered the vaccionations and pushed them back six months. I didn’t feel they needed 4 vaccines all at once at one year! I waited until they were 18 months old, then did them two at a time. Secondly, and most importantly, I called ahead to the Dr’s. office two months prior to our appointment and requested that they have preservative free vaccine for the kids. Insurances generally won’t pay for preservative free vaccine, but the cost is nominal considering what you won’t be paying in heartbreak, emergency room bills, and regret. Keep all the great work you fabulous moms!

]]> By: Misty Vento http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10254 Misty Vento Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:13:04 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10254 So scary and sad. I have the same exact story, if not the same picture I could share of my oldest daughter. Shouldn't this tell us something? At least we have learned something, we can never go back but continue to do the best we can, lets not beat ourselves up as parents. But just pass on the healthy lessons we've learned to our own children so they can do the same. No one is perfect people, regrets are a waste of a growing mind and soul. So scary and sad. I have the same exact story, if not the same picture I could share of my oldest daughter. Shouldn’t this tell us something? At least we have learned something, we can never go back but continue to do the best we can, lets not beat ourselves up as parents. But just pass on the healthy lessons we’ve learned to our own children so they can do the same. No one is perfect people, regrets are a waste of a growing mind and soul.

]]> By: Jennifer http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10253 Jennifer Mon, 09 Feb 2009 21:20:38 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10253 I have to agree with comment number 6~I'm not a mom either, but my mom has made many of these same mistakes with me. She had an emergency appendectomy when I was 6 weeks gestation. It was traumatic for the both of us. I have spent the past 30+years learning about how to live a whole, healthy life and I would want my mother to know that these lessons were also mine, and have made me who I am today. I would ask he to forgive herself, and allow these challenges to bring us closer not keep us apart. I have to agree with comment number 6~I’m not a mom either, but my mom has made many of these same mistakes with me. She had an emergency appendectomy when I was 6 weeks gestation. It was traumatic for the both of us. I have spent the past 30+years learning about how to live a whole, healthy life and I would want my mother to know that these lessons were also mine, and have made me who I am today. I would ask he to forgive herself, and allow these challenges to bring us closer not keep us apart.

]]> By: Tiffany http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10252 Tiffany Sun, 08 Feb 2009 14:47:12 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10252 Pierrette, My son was 11 months when he was first hospitalized and it was the dtap vax. Pierrette,

My son was 11 months when he was first hospitalized and it was the dtap vax.

]]> By: casual friday everyday http://naturemoms.com/blog/2009/02/05/motherhood-regrets-and-mistakes/#comment-10251 casual friday everyday Fri, 06 Feb 2009 21:35:12 +0000 http://www.naturemoms.com/blog/?p=2031#comment-10251 Gosh, our first usually get the short end of the stick. I know mine did. Nell Gosh, our first usually get the short end of the stick. I know mine did.

Nell

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