I made a rookie mom mistake today. I started reading a book to my two youngest kids and didn’t read through it myself first. I assumed since it is was an eco themed kids book that I would like it. I didn’t like it an regret reading the first 5-6 pages to my 3 and 4 year old kids.
I don’t like to do negative reviews when it comes to small business or mom products so I won’t name the book. But the experience showed me that not all books in the eco kids niche are created equal. I want to talk about the reasons why I feel an eco book for kids can take a dangerous turn into the inappropriate and why.
The book was about bears and forest animals losing their homes to environmental destruction told from the viewpoint of the animals. No red flags going up by the sound of it but the way it was told was kinda of like a junior horror story. My mom spider senses started tingling on the third page of the book when one bear is driven far from his home and relates the story to another bear including the kinda inappropriate detail about his best friend being by murdered by humans. The picture accompanying this was startling. The message was clear. Evil humans are targeting defenseless bears. Okay I don’t want to argue the validity of that point or not but I know my 3 and 4 year olds didn’t need to hear about it at this juncture in their young lives. There are numerous ways it should be phrased or represented to be sympathetic to the bears without making men at large look like villains.
The book declined in my esteem with every page, and we stopped reading after more bad humans caused some sort of explosion in the forest. In the picture the animals were terror stricken and running for their lives while humans stood about indifferently in the background.
I continued browsing silently and found pictures of an animal meeting where the bear at the head of the table was outraged with a fist slamming the table. Pictures of kids taunting and teasing animals for fun and another picture of kids almost drowning. Most of this book unfolded like a train wreck…total doom and gloom. Yes the end was nice with the animals and kids working together for change but there was still condescending language about their parents being the humans who caused all this and how the kids need to stop them.
My hubby was sitting next to us while I was reading and he kept glancing over in alarm when some of this stuff came out of my mouth. His response after I stopped reading was “are you reading communist, liberal, anti propaganda to my kids?” He was of course kidding but his point was valid. This is exactly the reason why so many environmentalists get labeled as wacko and our message gets lost. I just don’t think this is the way to raise awareness and help kids take up the cause to save our planet. I really don’t.
There was no need to paint adult humans (and kids) as evil and mean. There was no reason to show such violence. I don’t want my children to think that people are inherently bad and that they are just too mean or stupid to care about the environment and the animal inhabitants. Even if there is some truth to that in some instances they don’t need that to be the framwork for their worldview at 4-8 years old… the target audience for this book. The same story could have been told by appealing to their emotions and not scaring the crap out of them. I was very dissapointed by how the message was delivered and I will be much more careful in the future.
Oh wow. How awful. How did your children handle the little bit they got?
Wow, what a horrible book! While there’s certainly an age to stop sugar coating things, it definitely isn’t 3-4. I’m sure mine would have been so upset having something like that read to them.
Maybe you want to pick up the books I recently featured on my blog “shout out for eco books”…
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I made a similar mistake in buying a book that had a really sweet illustration on the cover. I [wrongly] assumed it would have a corresponding sweet message inside, especially since it was a board book! I was wrong. Good note to all us rookie moms out there!
Thanks for posting this… Now i’m going to make sure to flip through the entire book before purchasing! I wouldn’t have thought much about it before… Thanks:)
Unfortunately, I think we all make that mistake once. I know I did!
I think its important to look through books too, I know I dont do it all the time but I will try to now. I consider myself to be on the liberal communist side of the spectrum but things need to be developmentally right for kids and thats that
In the words of David Sobel, “If we child to flourish, we’ve got to give the a change to connect with nature and love the earth, before we ask them to save it.”
You are absolutely correct!!! And it doesn’t just stop with preschoolers. To this day my older brother will tell you that the books he read as a teenager held way to mature content for his age. This is something we are going to have to think about for years to come.
And the same goes for movies. Just because they are a cartoon or made by disney doesn’t mean they are appropriate. I feel the same way about Happy Feet that you do about this book. They made the adults in Happy Feet look very uncaring. Great post!
Hey Tiffany, I too share the same thoughts about this type of “learning.”
People in general learn best when provided with a positive example in action. Also we hold people to standards by the way we speak to them, so I wonder what sort of expectations we set with a doom and gloom eco book.
I hope to fill my kids with ( or at least preserve) all the hope and optimism they have been born with. They have plenty of time later in life to learn about the more destructive aspect of living.
the book thing happened to me when my girls were little. I had to quick change the words I read to get through the book. Just because something says it’s for children, doesn’t mean it is appropriate. We have that problem with movies all the time. The rating system is a great idea, but who sets the rating? People without children I think! I always check out reviews on MovieMom.com before I let my kids watch. She makes good calls on age appropiateness. PG and PG 13 sometimes gets a little too fuzzy. Even G rated movies can be questionable for little ones out there!