You will have heard of a honeymoon, but what about a babymoon? A honeymoon is understood to be a time of intimacy and closeness between a bride and groom, and a babymoon is also a time of intimacy and closeness. It’s a time for a mother and baby to get to know each other. Breastfeeding, attachment, and many necessary things occur when a mother takes time out for a babymoon.
The concept of a babymoon is not new, even if the term is. The term “babymoon” has been used to refer to close time between couples before the birth of their child, but generally speaking the term is reserved for those few weeks after birth.
All over the world, various cultures recognize the weeks immediately following birth to be an almost sacred time of rest and solitude for mother and baby. In some parts of the world, new mothers are pampered – fed special foods, given massages, and otherwise treated with care during the postpartum period. There is a reason why this global tradition is being upheld – there are many benefits. Here are some.
Healing
Your body has undergone a tremendous series of events. Pregnancy and childbirth, depending on the circumstances and health of the mother, can be draining at best and traumatic at worst. Your body needs time to heal physically, especially in the case of perineal tearing or a C-section. It also needs time to heal emotionally, as your body undergoes enormous hormonal shifts after birth and you adjust to the new routine of baby care.
Bonding
Western cultures tend to discourage mother-infant bonding. Mothers talk about how little their child needs them and how well he or she goes with a caregiver. But the importance of close bonding should not be diminished. During the babymoon, mother and baby should have lots of skin-to-skin contact and interaction. The close bond that is formed will build a foundation of security that will last for the rest of the baby’s life.
Health
An old midwife recommendation was for a new mother not to leave the house for six weeks. More and more we are discovering the wisdom of that caution. During the first six weeks of life, a baby’s immune system is still developing. It’s a germy world out there, and while exposure does help build immunity, the immune system must be ready before exposure can have any beneficial effect.
Breastfeeding
The health benefits of breastfeeding are too numerous to list here, but suffice to say that a babymoon encourages the breastfeeding relationship. Mother and baby have time to bond and learn the sometimes challenging art of breastfeeding without the rush of trying to get back to the old routine right away.
Im only used to the version of babymoon that is just the husband and wife during pregnancy. I thought everyone had to take time off after having a baby, so I wouldnt expect there to actually be an option to not do that sense of babymoon. Im pregnant and just made arrangements to take a babymoon trip for Valentines just 20 minutes away at a nice resort while my mom watches my now 7 month old. (he will be 8 months then). Are there important reasons to do this kind of babymoon or is that just an excuse for a vacay?
Great article. We had a 40 day babymoon – not even left the house! Super-snuggly heartmelting experience. Recommended! And babywearing in a Samba Sling.
While I was home with each of my babies when they were born, I really wish I had taken more help so that I would have had little to do but bond with them. We did, but I wish it had been a little bit more. Of course, with second and third babies it gets trickier to fit all of their needs in.
It’s hard to find knowledgeable people on this topic, but you sound like you know what you’re talking about! Thanks